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The k(NO)wing of Parenting

THE STATEMENT THAT STRUCK A CHORD:

“…because the inability to say “No”—the inability to set personal boundaries—is one of the most common, insidious causes of human suffering.”

Subject matter for this post was extracted and quoted from this article: The Reason Every Kid Should Talk Back To Their Parents

If we build a world from the perspective of Love as Unity Conscious Beings, boundaries will be obsolete. Until this manifests more fully in our planets’ collective consciousness, I deeply resonate with the linked article.

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“Do children need to learn to set boundaries assertively rather than aggressively? Yes. Do they need to learn the art of compromise? Definitely. Do they need to learn to wisely choose moments of submission? Absolutely.

But all of that learning begins with a ‘No’.”

Saying NO is the first step to Self empowerment and to finding a new way to experience life, when the old one does not feel good any longer. This discontinues the perpetuation of old dogmas and belief systems that caused your separation in the first place. After you assert your NO, you have a clean slate to build on. The next step is discovering the new and improved commonality to create the win/win between ‘this’, and ‘that’.

Personally, I feel that in her 8th year, my daughter and I are finding more and more common ground in our foundation, and surely, achieving this means that she will also replicate this pattern in her own subjective world. Of course there is some resistance in moments, this is the only way for her to safely learn about and assert her power in constructive ways. Personally, I feel my purpose as her guide in this world is to teach her about the Universal Laws in action – by maintaining my integrity and by being a living example to her, by allowing her to experience the ebb and flow of life, and by sharing information with her openly and authentically ~ but always through the intention of Love.

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When practicing the Law of Self you will understand that saying YES to Self and remaining in one’s own integrity (which is the most important practice) – at times involves saying NO to others. This is healthy non-conformity, and something we should always strive for and honor. When we honor it in Self, we will quite naturally honor it in others as well – mostly importantly, in our children. In saying NO and causing a temporary separation to find a greater alignment within Self, we must acknowledge that the responsibility is on us to find a more natural flow in our lives and with others, and to live this example for our children to model themselves after. Teach by example. We will most definitely foster a society of Self responsible beings; beings who have the ability to respond to Self.

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~IG~

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Stuck? Change ONE Thing!

It’s funny how if we let them, things change over the years. Enjoying the contrast and the dichotomy of who we are now, is even more interesting. As an example of this, in school they taught me to use numbers in Math class, and to use words to tell stories in English class. Of course, I still do this when the necessity arises, however, because of this foundation, I have been able to expand upon my world in ways I would have not really imagined possible way back then in elementary school.

Now I use numbers to tell stories through Mystical Numerology, and I use words with the math I learned back in school! How backwards! But not really. It actually creates a much more whole picture to be able to access Truth in each living moment. My daughter is fascinated by this work I do, and especially with this very magical thing I do with numbers, however for now I have had to deny her request to learn my craft while she creates her own solid foundations in school. There will be a time for all of that! For now, I will share with you!

The solutions we utilize for ourselves in our healing processes do not have to be grandeur by any means. In fact, in my own world, I would say the more accessible it is for everyone to use and easily apply to their lives, the more of a miracle it becomes! Simplicity is where it’s at! Here I would like to share something very basic that came to me to show me just how easy it is to heal ourselves, and our lives. Easy as 1, 2, 3 as some would say! And once you start paying attention to the changes you make and noticing the impact it has on your life, you will want to change much more than ONE thing – guaranteed!

*If you change just ONE of these your life will naturally add up differently!*

Your Perspectives + Your Patterns + Your Cycles = Your Life

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~IG~

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For Laughing Out Loud!

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For anyone who knows me remotely well at this point in my life, they know that I am constantly paying attention to my body and my environment, and the feedback system it provides me with. After so many years of ignoring it, subduing it, silencing it, numbing it and fighting it – I am happily committed to being tuned in and mindful of this connection, and the wisdom and understanding that comes through it. Apparently, this has become a staple in my daughters life as well.

This evening I was going through clothes with my daughter, Alecks, getting her ready to head back to school. We had some fun and she was getting tired of taking clothes on and off, and by the end of it she was asking me to do this for her. I told her I needed her help because she wasn’t a baby anymore. Again she claimed she was too tired as she sprawled herself across the bed, this time adding that it was my fault! As I failed in my attempt to hide my surprise and consequential disbelief, she went on to say that I was the one that was making her laugh so much, and that this was taking way too much of her energy away from our focus of trying on the clothes. She continued telling me that at school when she ran she could run very fast, unless her friends were making her laugh. Then she became wobbly and wishy washy in how she performed, and that the laughing didn’t allow her body to have enough ‘structure’ to run faster.

So now that I have received this feedback in my world. What the heck do I do with it? I am filled with wonder and awe as I realize just how often this child takes me completely out of the box, and out of the safe confines of my own B.S. (Belief Systems). This child offers me yet another opportunity for expansion. The questions begin racing through my mind. Do we really become weak or wishy washy from laughing? Why do we laugh? Is laughing just a coping mechanism so that we don’t have to really feel that we actually feel bad? Is it something we use as a distraction, and most useful in times of physical healing? Being wishy washy would definitely assist in allowing someone to shift into a more relaxed state of being to allow for healing to take place. Maybe it is through laughter that we offer a true surrender to what is, and let go long enough for a miracle to take place?

However, in our everyday lives, is laughing a happy cover-up for our actual weaknesses? A welcome distraction? Is this a mere shift in the kaleidoscope from the archetype of the Emperors New Clothes that I just read about in Timur’s blog (http://believeinthesummit.com/mirror-mirror/)?  I would have never thought of laughing as something to make you lose strength and/or structure, however the spike in one’s frequency would take energy to accommodate. It’s amazing just how tuned in these young ones are. Where we adults take things for granted through our conditioned experiences and responses, they are open to seeking and speaking, not knowing the collective illusions we have bought into and continue to corroborate. I would have never even realized there was a possibility that laughter could affect me in any way but a positive one, I have been told too many times that laughter is always a good thing. As with everything, it has it’s moment of upliftment, but also its moments of detriment, depending on what one’s focus is.

In the case of healing, I would have to still agree that laughter heals, but like anything, it is a tool. And anything in excess creates unbalance and instability which will eventually weaken you. Depending on where one stands, ultimately dictates the view we choose to adopt. My world seems to continuously be thrown outside of the neat and tidy boxes I have created for myself, so I might as well tell everyone what the view is like over here!

Any thoughts?

~IG~

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